the last share

Should everything I say be able to stand as the last thing I ever said?

Should everything I ever tweet, snap or post be able to stand as the last thing I ever shared publicly?

Bad questions to ask. Looks like I’m shoulding all over myself.

But the idea behind those questions is an intruiging one.

I love the book “The Art of possibility” by Rosamund & Benjamin Zander. It made me cry, I don’t know why, but it moved me. Anyway, in the book they tell the story of a woman who survived Auschwitz. When the Train that deported her arrived in Ausschwitz she looked down at her 8 year old brother and noticed one of his shoes had gone missing. She scolded him: “Can’t you look after your things?!?!”

That was the last thing she ever said to him, they were separated upon arrival and she never saw him again. After she survived Ausschwitz and went back into the world she vowed to make every word she ever spoke able to stand as her last words.

It’s a tall order. If we try we’ll all fail at it at times. But it could be a great north star for your intentions. As the Zander’s say, it’s a possibility to live into.

I started this post by writing some bad questions. Why were the questions bad? I don’t like the word “should”. It implies a disconnect with reality.

Maybe the better questions is “what would it feel like to have everything I ever say be able to stand as the last thing I ever said?” My guess is that I would feel the potency and the banality every moment has within it. That way I could still snap on snapchat ( <— add me there 🙂 ) about random stuff, as long as the intent behind the snap is one of love, joy or compassion.




To focus or to open up?

Many of us have our best ideas in the shower or just before/after waking up. Ever noticed that? It is a common theme. Why is that?

Did you know there are basically two modes of thinking? The focused mode and the open/diffuse mode (for example when we are showering or dropping off). If you are patient enough to invest 20 minutes of your time to find out how to learn effectively, watch this video:

If you didn’t watch it, no hard feelings, I’ll sum it up for you: There are these two modes, basically Mrs. Oakley tells us that we need to switch between both of them, so that lateral connections and deep focus can alternate, so that neural connections deepen and interconnect more.

Our album making is basically in full swing, but man, it’s going harder than I want to admit. We want to tickle the best out of every song we’re working on, still we don’t want to brood in our studio until our beards turn grey and then, in the end, have a totally warped wanna-be masterpiece, which is absorbed by its own unreached potential.

When is a song finished? Maybe when there is nothing left to take out of it…

Theo, my son, has had a temperature for the last few days and an infected throat. Nights have been rough. I’m drained, low energy, tired. The semester has started again, I need to focus on getting the work for that done as well. When do I open up, diffuse?

This coming Thursday (5th May 2016) the great Ebo Taylor is playing in the city of Mainz, Germany. We have band practice on Thursday, we want to work on our album. Shall we shun the outside and go all in on our album? Or should we open up and take advantage of this probably one-in-a-lifetime chance to absorb a master of his craft perform in an intimate setting?

Let’s see. I think I’ll just listen to Ebo right now, talk to the boys when I’ve got my fundamentals back on lock: Sleep, eat and move to this here.

Speak soon!